Moving forward 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
Build a morning that does not begin with their profile
Choose the first few actions of your morning before online checking sets the agenda for the day.
#routines#social-media#self-trust
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Still hoping for another chance? Start here.
Understand no contact, think through reconnecting, and work out what a second chance would need. There’s room here for wanting them back and looking after yourself.
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Rumination and checking 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
What do you hope to learn by checking their followers?
Test the question behind checking your ex’s followers and replace an unanswerable search with a useful next action.
#social-media#rumination#boundaries
Rumination and checking 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
Stop treating a new partner as evidence about your worth
Stop comparing yourself with your ex’s new partner and choose boundaries around information that does not help you live.
#social-media#rumination#identity
Grief and feelings 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
There is no useful competition over who moved on first
Stop using visible milestones in your ex’s life to judge the pace or value of your own recovery.
#grief#social-media#self-trust
Reconnection 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
A social-media like is not a reconciliation conversation
A like can be noticed without being promoted into evidence that your ex wants to try again.
#social-media#reconciliation#rumination
No contact 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
Should you delete the old conversation?
Decide what to retain, archive or remove from an old conversation based on how you use it now.
#memories#social-media#closure
No contact 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
A read receipt does not explain your ex’s feelings
Treat read receipts and activity markers as limited information instead of explanations of intent.
#social-media#messaging#rumination
No contact 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
Mute, unfollow or block: choose the boundary you need
Choose a social boundary by the access and exposure you need to change.
#social-media#boundaries#no-contact
No contact 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
You checked their profile again: what to change next
Use the latest checking episode to change one part of the habit instead of judging yourself.
#social-media#rumination#routines
No contact 3 min read Full Access · Coming soon Archive:
Being blocked does not call for a different account
A block is a reason to stop seeking access, even when you still have something you want to explain.
#boundaries#social-media#no-contact
Archive dates organize this collection across the past year. The collection was written on October 2, 2026.